What’s more intimate than “breaking bread” with someone you love/like? A dinner date gives you a chance to talk, flirt and sip some wine together. You should be yourself, but make sure it’s your polite self. (Not the half-naked gal who sits on the couch with a pint of ice cream when she’s down.) As in all social situations, there is an expected protocol to follow. (Word of advice from a former dating pro: know what type of dinner you’re attending. There’s nothing worse than showing up for a barbecue in a pair of spiked heels. )
Try not to break these rules and earn that coveted second dinner date.
No texting during dinner. Nothing says, “I’m here for the free meal,” like texting through dinner. Put the phone away and encourage him to do the same. Enjoy one another’s company or least be polite.
Don’t order garlic unless he does. If things progress to a good night kiss, you don’t want stinky breath. I love the garlic and onions but unless he’s ordering smelly food, I don’t.
Offer to pay. There’s no shame in “going Dutch.” Politely offer to pay for your half of the meal or even the whole thing. If he says “no,” don’t insist but at least he’ll know you offered.
Don’t order the most expense meal on the menu. Here’s the scenario, you order the priciest dish on the menu but discover, during the course of the meal, that he’s not for you. Instead of saying a pleasant “adios” at the end of the meal, you might feel tempted to see him again, just because. Leading him on because you ordered the lobster is unfair. Don’t do it.
Be on time. Being “fashionably late” tells your date a few things about you. Namely, that you are more important than he is and that you don’t respect his time. Be fashionable-just don’t be late! It’s rude.
Don’t get drunk. Know your limit! What’s more embarrassing than waking up the next day wondering what happened? Especially, if you aren’t in your own bed? Don’t overindulge on the vino. You’ll regret it!
Share the spotlight. This date isn’t all about you. It’s about the two of possibly becoming a couple. Listen to his story, tell your story but keep it succinct. Don’t start from the day you were born or get mired in the details. I always gave myself a mental recap before the date, deciding on what to share and what to keep to myself.
Every guy likes unraveling a mystery. Open books are easily read!
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