Sure there are those who hate Valentine’s Day even when they’re coupled up, but when you’re single, hatred of the holiday skyrockets. I’ve talked to some singles where it seems as if all the bitterness of past relationships boils over and explodes on that one day every year. However, many of those who seem to loathe the day explained they don’t want to feel that way, that it just happens. If you’re single and ready to embrace the day instead of hate it, here are several suggestions for how to go about it.
Realize the holiday is not actually a big deal
When it comes down to it, Valentine’s Day isn’t really a big deal. Keep in mind that some of those “happy” couples you see while you’re out in about may be putting up a really good front and aren’t as happy as you think. It’s all about how someone treats you year round, not just on one day when it’s standard for someone to go out of their way in honor of the holiday. Although Valentine’s Day is meant to be a day that celebrates love, it really is just one day out of the year.
Send out valentines
Who says everyone should only get valentines from those they’re dating? The day is about love, so send some valentines to those you love the most – your family and friends. You’ll feel good knowing that you made them feel special and maybe even made them hate the day a little less.
Start a tradition
Start up a tradition that you do can do every Valentine’s Day either by yourself or with loved ones. Whether it’s going to see a new movie, grabbing a group and going to hibachi or having friends over for a little gathering, having a tradition you do every year can give you something to look forward to every Valentine’s Day even if you’re single.
Make the day about those you love
Spend Valentine’s Day celebrating with friends you love. The relationships you have with your friends are some of the most important relationships you’ll ever have, so why shouldn’t you spend the holiday with those who are so important to you? Besides, there are plenty of people who would agree that friends make much better dates than some people they’ve been out with in the past on Valentine’s Day.
Make it about yourself
There’s no problem at all with staying in by yourself on Valentine’s Day. I decided last year that I would stay in and I had a complete day for myself for the first time in months. I ordered my favorite take out that I had been avoiding due to being on a diet, I bought my favorite wine, wore comfortable lounge clothes, watched my favorite movies and did nothing involving work. If you’re single and don’t feel like going out, there’s no better way to spend Valentine’s Day.
Avoid communication with the outside world
Go on Facebook or Twitter and you’re going to see a bunch of posts and pictures about Valentine’s Day gifts. Keep your phone on and you might get random texts from exes who are feeling lonely and want to try to get back into your good graces – or your pants. Both of those scenarios likely aren’t going to make you love the holiday. Your best bet is to avoid communicating with others as much as possible and just focus on yourself or those you’re with.
Do random acts of kindness
What better way to lift your spirits on Valentine’s Day than to dedicate the day to spreading the love to friends and strangers? Do random acts of kindness whether you buy someone’s drive thru order, drop off cookies to a neighbor or tape a few dollars to a vending machine. By the end of the day, you’ll feel absolutely wonderful for all your nice gestures.
One of the main reasons many seem to hate Valentine’s Day is that they focus more on what they don’t have – i.e. a significant other / spouse – instead of what they do have. It’s easy to get wrapped up in that, especially with all the lovey dovey couples everywhere you look. However, the more you dwell on it, the more it’s going to bother you. Change your thought process and focus on the positive and you might end up realizing that Valentine’s Day isn’t nearly as bad as you thought.
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