Getting and keeping a black man is not as hard as it may seem. You simply have to know some relationship do’s and don’ts. To find out what these are, read on.
Bring something to the table
Always have something to bring to the table in a relationship. Don’t expect the man to pay all of your bills or be the answer to all of your problems. Have something to offer. I am not saying don’t expect him to help you financially. What I am saying is that you should have something other than your looks to keep him interested. Your looks might have attracted him, but you have to be exciting or intriguing enough to keep his attention.
All men want a woman who will lift him up and encourage him. You don’t have to act like a gloating idiot. But, do tell him how proud you are of him. Tell him that he is a good father. Act excited when he brings home that prize buck. Find something positive about him and point that out to him.
Know your value
In the movie Joy Luck Club, An-Mei tells her daughter Rose that she (Rose) doesn’t know what she is worth. It is so important to know your value. And, the value that I am referring to doesn’t have anything to do with money. Although society and a lot of rap songs may tell you otherwise, becoming intimate too quickly is a no-no. Some men may claim that this doesn’t matter, but ladies, don’t fool yourself. It does. If you give in to his sexual advances too soon, he will wonder if you do the same with all men. Steve Harvey’s book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man also discusses this very concept.
You should use the first stages of your relationship to getting to know each other. Becoming sexually involved too early can bring your relationship to a premature halt. Let the man discover your true worth. So, if your goal is to get a black man and to keep him, you must place a higher value on yourself.
Don’t be overbearing
All men need a little space. It is okay to spend time together, but don’t smother him or constantly demand attention. Allow him to pursue his own interests. And remember, you don’t have to always be included. Your relationship will actually work better if you have some hobbies and interests of your own. This will help to make you more interesting to him.
Eligible black men are in short supply, but you can attract and keep one. Simply apply the above principle and those from A Black Woman’s Guide: How to Get and Keep a Black Man Part 1.