A lot of women are still attracted to the bad boy or strictly basing attraction on looks and wealth. Once you get that guy, he turns out to be a jerk and you wonder why you keep ending up with these losers. Let’s take a look at some of the signs of a good man. These signs may be so small that you’d never think about them, but they play a role in telling you if you’ve found a keeper.
He Opens the Door and Lets YOU Walk in or Out FIRST
How many men have done this for you? I was standing outside of a movie theater waiting for someone and watched obvious couples walk out of the theater. Out of the six couples who exited, one man opened the door and let his woman walk out first. The same thing goes for opening the car door for you. A man who shows this gesture is showcasing chivalry. A lot of women say chivalry is dead. No, you just haven’t found a man who uses it or respects you enough to use it.
He Compliments You Even When You Look or Feel Your Worst
We all wake up with crust in our eyes and sometimes wild hair, but if your man is next to you and the first thing he says is, “Good morning gorgeous,” and kisses you with your bad breath, he’s a good man. There are a lot of men who wouldn’t dare say nor do that in the morning because some of us can look a hot mess before we do a little AM prep.
If you feel fat, bloated or constantly pointing out your supposed trouble areas on your body and your man stops you and says, “Baby, you’re perfect the way you are and I wouldn’t change a thing,” appreciate his words. If he was a jerk, he could have said, “Yes, you are fat and you could lose a bit of weight especially in your____.” Or he may not say a word because he silently agrees with you. Remember, men don’t see the same flaws we do.
He Wants to Please You
In a world where most people only care about themselves, for a man to admit he wants to please you and constantly doing things to accomplish it is a wonderful thing. Pleasing you doesn’t always mean buying you things, although getting gifts isn’t a bad thing, he could simply listen to you and act immediately versus doing what you said a month later because you excessively repeated yourself. Pleasing you also counts towards sex. Is he asking you what he could do differently in bed to make you happy or is he a wham bam thank you ma’am?
He Wants to Spend Time with You
A man who wants to spend genuine time with you instead of constantly blowing you off or giving you excuses as to why he can’t meet up with you is a lovely thing. Yes, we all need time a part to have our own social life, but when a man decides to hang with you instead of going out with his friends for the night is showing true love. It is also a compliment if he wishes to take you to meet his friends or coworkers. A man will only show off someone he is proud to have by his side.
He’s Mr. Touchy Feely
Does he touch your legs, reach for your hand to hold it, grab your waist or slide his hand across your butt in public AND in private? Have you noticed his touches? We can get so use to our men that we stop paying attention to something as subtle as a touch. He isn’t touching you because he’s thinking about sex… OK, he probably is… but if he isn’t ripping your clothes off within two minutes, odds are he only wanted to feel you or be closer to you.
Men are often raised to be “manly” and not show emotion. These are the type of men who can’t express themselves constructively, brush off arguments or sit in silence. This can drive women crazy. Ladies, it is alright to have an emotional man. This doesn’t mean he is weak. It means he knows how to express himself which will save you a lot of confusion. How many times have we heard, “Don’t ask a man ‘How do you feel?'” If you get an emotional man and ask him that question, you will get a line of communication you never thought could come from the male species.
He Cooks AND Cleans
If a man offers to cook because he wants you to relax, let him cook. He has admitted to loving your cooking, so don’t take it as an insult if he wishes to prepare a meal. It means he is grateful for the meals you have prepared and wants you to sit back and be served. Whether or not he can cook is a different story.
How many times have we heard women complain about their man not helping with the chores? If you mention you’re about to clean and he offers to help, toss that independent woman to the side for the moment and raise your hands and rejoice. Or would you rather have a man sit on the sofa while you clean around him?
He Talks About His Future with You and MEANS It
This is one of the most important things. Men who truly want to be with you will talk about future plans that include you. You may be thinking of marriage plans, but that’s going too far ahead. Women often think about marriage and children before men, so don’t jump down his throat if that’s not one of the first thing he plans with you. Listen out for planning trips together in the near future or simply suggesting future activities. Most importantly, he will take action to make those plans come to fruition. If he initiates the big wedding talk, that’s an even bigger plus for you.