Someone once said to me that you are not a true parent until you have two kids. Although I don’t agree with this statement, I do know that going from one child to two has been a big change. When my son was born, my daughter was 3 years and eight months old. Since having the two kids, I feel tired and overwhelmed. However, at the same time, I love having two children. Here is how I’m adjusting to being a mom of two.
The Great Attention Divide
Babies require a lot of care and attention. However, preschoolers, at least my preschooler, like to be the center of attention. Since the birth of my son, the “watch me” shouts have increased. During those moments when my son is sleeping, I make sure to spend some one-on-one time with my daughter.
Twice the Work, Twice the Fun
Having two kids really is twice as hard. Running errands with two takes longer. Last week both kids had colds and I got three hours of sleep. Now, when I am only watching one child, it seems very easy. I can’t imagine having three or four children. I don’t know how some parents do it. Still, you get twice as many smiles and hugs.
Different Developmental Levels
My now four-year-old and seven-month-old are at different developmental levels. My eldest is at the point where she can be independent in some areas. My baby is in the crawling stage. Although they like to be with each other, my preschooler can sometimes play too rough. In addition, my daughter is at the age where she can string beads together, use scissors and eat things like whole grapes. Since I have a baby who is crawling, I have to scan the floor frequently to make sure there aren’t any small items on the ground.
Getting the Baby to Nap
When I just had my daughter, I would watch television while I nursed her. I often napped when she napped. Now, napping when the baby naps is no longer an option. In addition, in between play dates and going to the park, my little one is often snoozing on the go. When we are home, I have to give my daughter a fun activity in order to be able to put the baby down for a nap. Often times, she wakes the baby up.
It almost seems like the kids know when I am about to get a moment for myself. My son often awakes at 5:30. Although I often get him back to sleep around 6:30, my daughter will wake up on those days. When my daughter sleeps longer, my son seems to want to go back to sleep. I bought my daughter a little “Ok to Wake” alarm clock that turns green when she can get out of bed. It helped, a little.
Despite still trying to get used to having two kids, my favorite part is watching the two of them interact. Although they are years apart, they really make each other laugh. My daughter likes to help get diapers for the baby and give him a bath. She can be very helpful at times.
Two kids is a big life adjustment but I wouldn’t trade this experience for the world.
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