My Wife’s Health History
After dating my wife for about three months she told me that her kidneys only operated between 18 and 20 percent. I found out that this was bad enough to have blood test done monthly and to make monthly trips to the U of M Hospital. Yet it wasn’t bad enough to get to the top of the transplant list. For that you had to reach 15 percent area. I asked how it happened and she told me that the doctors don’t know. Of course they made some educated guesses but there was no for sure answer. From what we could understand, it happened slowly over time and due to that she never really had any major side effects. Then about two years into our relationship she got sick. It wasn’t life or death sick, but she was pretty run down and feeling horrible. It got to the point where she needed to go to the hospital. While there she had her normal blood test ran for her kidneys. She later was released. About a week later we found out that she was very dehydrated during her sickness and when they took her blood. She was below the threshold for getting a transplant.
–Tip: If you have other complication, be sympathetic to small colds. They can get out of control very fast.
Being On the List
She was now on the list. We were instructed to always be ready. It was like being in the military. Once they called, you had to be on the road within 1 hour. The timelines that were given to us for a transplant ranged from 2 years to 10 years. It all depended on getting a donor and that donor matching. I remember when we got the phone call. We were told to be on stand-by, because they had a kidney about an hour out and they wouldn’t know if it matched my wife for about an hour after that. So it was about a two hour window we had to wait. So the only thing I could think to do was go to church and pray. No second phone call came. We later found out that she wasn’t a match. Yet about 6 months later we got another phone call. This time she was to just report to the hospital for a transplant. Eight hours later she was on the operating table getting her new kidney. She came out with no complications. My wife was in the hospital for around two weeks, with me at her side.
–Tip: Be patient and have an action plan in place. Know who will take care of your kids, where her overnight bag is and who will watch the animals.
After The Surgery
We had a lot of visitors at the hospital. Due to the fact that it was a teaching hospital she would see around 20 different doctors a day. It was a bit overwhelming having your whole room filled with doctors every day. Later she was discharged with a list of pills that she would have to take the rest of her life. Some pills have come and gone but she still takes around 10 pills a day. Directly after her discharged we had to make weekly visits to U of M Hospital. This also got tapered down to only once a year. She was off work for about three months. So far it has been about 3 and a half years and she is doing great. Thank you God, for her health!
–Tip: Educate yourself and keep track of what is going on, even if you have to keep a journal. Doctors aren’t perfect.
–Tip: Save up money, not to mention the doctor bills, but if your wife works you will only have one income while she recovers.