You can end the “bully” stage while your child is still a toddler. As parents of preschoolers, we have all watched our children take toys from another child or watched our child have toys taken from him or her. This is a developmental stage every child goes through. The way you react will determine how your child perceives and processes these events.
Have you ever wondered what makes an innocent child turn into an intrusive and/or aggressive, bully? Most children start out sweet and innocent. Influences and surroundings in their life affect how they act and react to situations. The biggest influence on a child is their primary caregiver.
The biggest influence on a child is their primary caregiver. If you have a toddler who is hitting or taking toys from another child your options are to react or not to do anything. If you do nothing, you might as well be praising the child for his or her behavior. Doing nothing tells the child that this is acceptable behavior and it is okay to act like this.
Telling your child no and asking him or her to apologize shows your child you do not approve and this is not acceptable behavior. Society is not going to approve of this behavior and chances are good as your child gets older, the behavior will lead to deviance and possibly violence.
Another way a child becomes a bully is by imitation. The child sees someone that he or she loves who is being a bully and then imitates the behavior.
A parent who displays hostility towards others may influence their child to become a bully. The child will see this behavior as acceptable even if the parent is telling the child “no” when he or she imitates the parent. The child will act like the parent and belittle others or say negative comments.
Parents may be raising a bully without even realizing the consequences their actions have. Parents who work a lot or put their child last on their list, could cause their child to feel unwanted. A child who feels unloved or unwanted will have the tendencies to act out. Sometimes this type of child turns into a bully.
To keep your child from being a bully be the best parent you can be. Stay positive around your child. Even if you are making mistakes as a parent, you are at least their for your child. Your child will feel your love and presence and try to please you.
Remember to reward your child for positive behavior.
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