Certainly there are occasional instances of boy and girl being best friends. Some boys may even have had at least one “girl” best friend in their younger days. However, this “best friend” thing is only possible in the age when nothing else is possible. By that I mean before the boy begins thinking like a man; before his mind is polluted with sugarplums and the fancy of a girl.
Many men feel that if a girl looks at them, she wants to be with them. That’s pretty strong, but we males tend to think like that. We strive for that, we want it so bad. We want a woman to want us as much as we want her. That will seldom happen, but we keep our eyes open for it at all times, none-the-less. Any positive overture on the part of the woman, towards us, is a sure sign, in our simple, one-way mind, that she wants to be with us.
If approached by a woman, in a friendly manner, no romantics intended, so many men imagine that woman wanting to be with them. Perhaps that is an instinctive emotion rising to the surface. Men have the capacity to imagine, whenever any woman pays any sort of positive attention to them, the magic moment when that woman will be in his arms.
This way of thinking may indeed be convoluted, twisted or down right perverted, but men simply cannot help it; it just happens. From experience, it is clear that not just one man thinks this way either. In fact, this ability to imagine that fantasy relationship resides within every male’s psyche. It is unclear when the need for an intimate relationship turns to the satisfaction of a friendly one. At some point in this quasi relationship the truth can come out and the man can be convinced that this is, unfortunately, neither a sexual nor a demented attempt at a boy / girl relationship.
No, girls cannot be just best friends with guys; they try to be friends, over and over again. Thus, the time worn phrase, “We can still be friends.” No guy wants to hear that one. We guys, believe it or not, want the girl.
No, boys cannot be, simply best friends with the girl. The girl may be trying to be buddy, buddy but the guy does not see it that way. It may be plausible to have many very satisfying boy / girl relationships. The man though in his eagerness, has probably thwarted that relationship simply by thinking a woman’s sideways glance was more than a sideways glance. A best friend status with a girl would be an exciting experience to say the least. If only one could first be imagined then ultimately realized.