While reading through profiles on a dating site, you’ll see some of the same phrases used over and over again and guys seem to be the biggest offenders. You may use certain cliches to make yourself sound wonderful, but in most cases, you’re turning off women. You want to stand out from every other guy on the site, so putting the same thing as many others is just going to send a woman on her way to a guy who doesn’t sound like all the rest. If one of the following cliches is in your dating profile, you may want to do some editing.
“Looking to meet new people”
So you mean to tell me you’re not on a dating website to meet the same people you already know in real life? If you’re on a dating site, you’re obviously looking to meet new people. Avoid phrases like these that only state the obvious and add nothing to your profile.
“I’m a real man”
Women who read your profile are going to be so disappointed because they’re likely on the site to meet a robot rather than a living, breathing male. Again, this statement does nothing but fluff your profile. Also, the fact that you even made this comment will make many women roll their eyes. Every woman has had a guy tell her he’s a real man only to prove that statement incorrect. If you have to state it, it usually means it’s not true. Prove it, don’t say it.
“Looking for a real woman”
You probably don’t want to date a robot, so this statement isn’t telling potential mates anything new. All this comment says to a woman is that you probably haven’t made very good choices in mates in the past and you’re used to dating women who don’t have much substance.
“Living life to the fullest”
According to many online daters, this is the most annoying cliche out there. The fact that so many others use it should scream for you not to. Separate yourself from the pack, don’t put yourself in the middle of it.
“My kids come first”
Writing this statement is one major mistake single parents make when they’re putting together a dating profile. It screams to potential mates that you’re never going to have time for them. Give brief details about your kids, maybe by saying one is two-years-old and the other is five, but that should be the extent of it. There’s obviously nothing wrong with absolutely adoring your kids, but a potential mate wants to know that you’re not going to have a severe anxiety attack getting a babysitter for a night in order to go out on a date.
“I’m a work in progress”
Considering no one is perfect, everyone is a work in progress. Making this statement only says one thing – you’re a mess. It’s like putting a big flashing warning sign on your profile telling women to stay away.
“Please don’t be crazy”
Translation: I attract crazy women and drama. No one gets into dating hoping that they’re going to meet some clingy and needy lunatic. Most people usually have at least one or two slightly off-putting ex’s in their past, but put this statement in your profile and it’s a red flag that your personal life is usually full of drama and crazies.
When it comes to writing your dating profile, be descriptive without giving too much away and avoid the same boring cliches that are in 9 out of 10 profiles. If it’s an obvious statement, eliminate it. Remember that the key is to attract wonderful women who think you’re better than all the other guys out there. Making the same statements only puts you in the same category as all the rest. Also, take a few minutes to review what you wrote to ensure that your profile says everything you want it to in exactly the right way.
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