Healthy self-esteem is an integral part to living a happy, well fulfilled life. Most people realize that their self-esteem could use some improvement. After all, everyone has things they don’t like about themselves. However, most people don’t know the right things to do to raise their self-esteem. Many people have the mistaken opinion that if they lose some weight, get a better job or meet the right person then they will feel better about themselves. But it doesn’t work like that. Self-esteem is an internal mechanism so it needs internal change for it to improve.
So, how do you go about changing your self-esteem? Healthy self-esteem begins with acceptance. Realize that you are human and you don’t have to be perfect. Focus on the positive things in your life. People with low self-esteem tend to focus on the negatives, the things they don’t like about themselves. They ignore all the positives like accomplishments, skills and abilities.
When you do think about your perceived flaws, focus on the good parts. Good parts of your flaws? That doesn’t seem to make any sense at first glance. Let’s take a closer look. Let’s say one of your perceived flaws is that you don’t have enough money. You could get a second job or try to get a promotion at work. This would mean more work and longer hours. Or you could accept things the way they are and see the good side which is that you have more time to spend with family and friends. The good side of this flaw is that you have more free time to enjoy life. There is always a positive and negative side to everything. You just have to look a little harder to find the good side of your flaws. Finding the good side will help you accept any perceived flaws.
Try making a scrapbook that accentuates everything you like about yourself. Think of it as a self-esteem journal. This is an opportunity to show your creative side. Include your favorite pictures of yourself. Journal some of the things you do like about yourself. Write about the nice things you do for family and friends. Add some inspiring quotes. Write down some goals to work on and keep track of your progress. Whenever you feel down, pull out your scrapbook and remind yourself that you have many good qualities.
Remind yourself of your good qualities on a daily basis by using affirmations. Affirmations are when you tell yourself all the good things you like about yourself. It can be as simple as thinking to yourself every morning that you like your caring nature, the color of your eyes and what a good parent you are. A good way to remember to repeat affirmations is whenever you are at a red light, look in your rear view mirror and say something nice to yourself. Think about it this way. You probably say nice things to other people all the time. Aren’t you worth as much time as your co-workers or your best friend? Don’t you deserve to say something nice to yourself every day?
Remember your worth, accept yourself, find the positives in perceived flaws, journal and practice affirmations. If you try even a few of these simple steps, you will find you have a lot of love for yourself in no time at all.