When someone dies without a will, trying to decide who gets which possessions and belongings is very complicated. Even if someone has a will most people don’t typically list who gets what of their smaller possessions. There was a lady who died not long ago and she thought it was enough to tell people her final wishes instead of writing it down. She believed that her loved ones would do what she wanted – she was wrong. Ultimately, dying without a will is cruel to the people who loved you because then they either won’t get what they want or they’ll have to fight for it. When someone dies without a will, how can it be amicably decided who gets what?
Who gave the person the item?
If the gift giver wants an item back for sentimental reasons after the person dies then perhaps they should have first choice on that item. No one gives a gift with the intention of getting it back, so this avenue of settling an estate doesn’t always occur to some individuals. But some items like those where the gift giver has a matching item then it’d make sense that they’d like to have it.
Are the person’s parents still alive?
It is said that there is nothing worse than the loss of a child. While that expression is probably referring to children who are still juveniles, it’d still be horrible to outlive your child. Items should be given back to parents that they saved for their child and gave them as an adult such as: School workbooks, pictures, scrapbook albums, baby book, childhood toys, etc. Childhood jewelry like maybe a first necklace or high school class ring should probably also be given to the parents. Even if the deceased had children, it’d be nice for the parents to have these items. They could share them with their grandchildren during visits and after the grandparents die they could bequeath these items to the grandchildren.
Bargaining and trading
If the deceased has an entire household full of items that multiple family members are wanting then there needs to be some order to the madness. Each person should make a list and order the items by most desired. The person who most desires the item should get it and that should cause less arguing, except over the most desirable items. If all else fails, share the item or turn to a game of chance for what person will get the item.
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