Growing up you always hear about Cinderella finding her prince charming. We may even imagine ourselves finding our very own Prince and living happily ever after. Well I found my prince but in reality he didn’t have a prince’s salary. And I was waiting tables. So needless to say, we were in trouble.
Well we got engaged and quickly realized that that fairytale wedding I had been dreaming about since I was seven, wasn’t going to happen. Instead we had to figure something else out. No, I wasn’t going to settle rather I was going to have to compromise. My dream of having our fall ceremony in the local arboretum turned into me walking down the aisle of our favorite park. It had just as many beautiful plants and flowers and saved us $3000.
When it came time to find my one of a kind Vera Wang dress I chose to go with something more simplistic, J.Crew. Yes, I was just as shocked as you to find out that they sold wedding dresses. Some of them can be pricey but mine was a steal. It only cost my one paycheck instead of a whole year’s worth. Ok yes it was the most costly thing of the wedding but come on, it’s my wedding day. I had to splurge a little and if I was going to do it somewhere it was going to be my dress. By not getting tuxes but rather using my husband’s well then fiancé favorite suit, we saved a bundle. They always get you by charging your groomsmen tons so that you can get your tux for free. Well we didn’t have any groomsmen, so that wasn’t going to happen anyway. I couldn’t choose who was going to be my maid of honor so my two best friends wore their favorite dresses. And that was that.
My best friend was my counselor, make-up artist, hair dresser and even my chauffeur to the actual wedding. By not paying someone to do what a friend is fully capable of it not only saves a bunch of money but it brings you closer to that person. Sharing your special day with a best friend or parent is worth more than glass slippers.
So the wedding ceremony is over now what? Well you hop into a friend’s nice sports car and take a drive. Well that’s what we did at least. Not renting a limo saved us $400 to $600. After we took our leisurely stroll we met all of our friends and family at my sister’s backyard. Yes I said my sister’s backyard. So many people overlook what our families have. Her yard was big enough for our guests and even a dance floor built by my father-in law. We had our own private table set with a nice bottle of wine and my mother’s nice china and a few decorations from her home.
For dinner everyone chipped in. We weren’t above asking for help. Friends and family love being a part of something special. We didn’t have to pay for alcohol my uncle made a two huge barrels of cider, one spiked and one not. My mother made leaf cookies with our names on some and wedding date on others. We didn’t have to pay a DJ because my cousin hooked up his iPod to his speakers and voila we had music. My sister in law loves to take photos so she was our designated photographer. And she did an excellent job.
We used decorations that nature gave us. It’s amazing how pairing twigs and leaves with a 25cent candle holder from a thrift store results in classic decorations. We also floated apples in my sister’s pool and placed tea lights around the perimeter. We even made my bouquet from the flowers found in my mother’s garden. This was by far the best idea. We took small cloth bags, filled them with mulled cider seasonings, tied them up and gave them away as favors.
So you see your fairytale wedding is what you make it. We didn’t have much money to spend but the memories are priceless. The people who shared in making our dream a reality mean the world to us. And the best part about saving on our wedding…..we had the greatest honeymoon and lived happily ever after!