Every parent loves their child, and would do anything for them. Children get hurt, injuries heal, life goes back to normal. However, that is not always the case. Boo boos can turn into a nightmare in some cases, mine especially. It happens to parents all around the world. A simple accident can change the life of a child, and the parent. Here is my son’s story.
We were playing on the playground at a local park. I have told my six-year-old son not to run countless times on the basket ball court. As I look up from pushing his brother on the swing, my oldest son was running. As I went to tell him to stop running, I was too late. He slipped and hit his head. The sound was horrible. I loaded all of my kids up and rushed my son to the local regional medical center, only a few blocks away. After through evaluation, it was found that he had a concussion and needed several stitches in the back of his head.
After the accident, he was different. He was angry, filled with rage at times. I tried to redirect his anger to inanimate object pillows, the couch, anything but people. I allowed him to scream that he hated me, screamed foul words, and cry.
After the tantrum, I would hug him and tell him that I loved him and that everything was okay. I knew it wasn’t, but he needed to hear that. I blamed his father for not being there, and not being much use when he was. I was looking for anyone to blame. I thought maybe he had abandonment issues from his father leaving.
I took him to a child neurologist. After two CAT scans, they ruled out post-concussive syndrome. Typically, this cannot be ruled out by a CAT scan, but they said the results were completely conclusive.
I took him to a psychiatrist, for a complete check. After through testing, my son was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. The doctors said that my son’s accident had brought out an underlying disease. He was placed on medication to control his moods and anger outbursts and the rage stopped after about two weeks. He was back to being my sweet little boy again.
The truth is, anything can happen. A small incident with a child, can cause a long term problem. If it does happen, deal with it properly, don’t just ignore the issue. I had two other children, that were witnessing this. Allowing the problem to go on, or escalate, would have traumatized my other two children.
It is not a shame for a child to have a mental disorder, it is a shame to allow it to go untreated.
It was very hard to deal with this information. I cried, screamed, and acted like a child. Finally, I signed myself up for counseling. After about a month of counseling, I finally came to terms with the issue.