So you’re finally liberating yourself of the home-dictatorship that has thus far dominated your life? Congratulations! College life as a nonbeliever is quite fulfilling and inspiring from personal experience; that is, after the first week. This article will give you some tips and suggestions of how to make some secular friends during that first jaunt in school. Let’s get down to it!
Unbelievers, skeptics, freethinkers, and atheists are fairly easy to find. Before school begins, check your college’s student organizations for atheist, secular, freethinking, or humanist clubs. The Secular Student Alliance has a registry of such organizations here. Meetings are a good place to find students of the same viewpoint and instantly have a group of potential friends. If this isn’t an option, try science and liberal organizations, as nonbelievers are more common in these groups.
An easy way to advertise your views without being overtly offensive is to wear a “low-profile” atheist T shirt – one that only a fellow freethinker would recognize (for example, a Richard Dawkins Foundation shirt as seen here). During that dreaded first week, people are actually very open to making friends; they are always looking to strike up conversation with anyone about anything – this is where some aptly planned clothing can turn into an instant speaking topic.
One of the worst mistakes is also one of the most common; don’t lock yourself in your room the first week of school. To make friends you need to meet people, and to meet people you need to be around people. Go to optional events, find coffee shops, and do everything in your power to get to know as many new people as you can.
Don’t be afraid to make the approach yourself. As said above: freshmen are very open to meeting new people – don’t miss out! You won’t be friends with everyone but you will find someone; this is almost guaranteed. If you do strike a chord with somebody, be sure to get their cell phone number. These preliminary acquaintances are great resources for company during orientation activities, meals, and general boredom-killing before classes begin. Get to know them, get to know their friends, and don’t forget to enjoy college! This is why you’re here: to meet new people and have new experiences; so do it!
- Find a secular organization
- Strategically plan your clothing
- Strike up meaningful conversations
- Find and approach as many people as possible
- Get possible friends’ phone numbers and ask to hang out
Follow these tips and you’ll have plenty of friends in no time! Remember, college is a time of exploration and self-discovery. Give yourself a great start and don’t forget to have fun!