One of the greatest challenges (yet most rewarding experiences) in life is finding that special person that you want to spend the rest of your life with. Unfortunately, the process of finding a spouse (aka dating) is fraught with difficulties and unexpected twists and turns.
However, the good news is that you persist with a positive attitude, you should eventually be able to find an amazing spouse. This person isn’t necessarily perfect (as such a man or woman doesn’t actually exist), but rather shares with you a core set of values, attributes, and interests that will allow for a pleasant and happy life together. The following are a few principles that will help you find an amazing spouse.
Become the person you are looking to find
This is so obvious that it should go without stating, but it is nonetheless worthy of mention because many omit this crucial step. While it is true that “opposites attract”, the truth is that relationships and marriage is easier when you and your spouse are highly compatible.
Thus, the first order of business is to become the person you wish to find. If you want to find someone who is fit and trim, you should hit the gym and work on eating healthier. If you are hoping to find an intelligent spouse, than perhaps you should finish that schooling you put off. If you want to find someone who is financially secure, you should work on paying off your debt and making sure you have good credit.
While it takes effort, this step is so very important because when you do meet that special person, you want to make sure that he or she is equally attracted to you. Once you have become the person that you are looking to find, chances are that you will find your match within a little while because you will be ready for each other.
Put your best foot forward
It is important to put your best foot forward when dating. As a basic matter, this involves being a good person – kind, generous, and displaying good manners. It is also include things that are external-facing like updating your wardrobe and appearance, and making sure your home, car, career, and life are in good order. By preparing yourself, you will have more confidence and will feel and be more attractive in the dating search, all of which will help boost your chances of finding someone great.
Look in right places and way
It is surprising how many people look for love in all the wrong places. If you don’t imagine yourself spending your life in a bar, then should probably not look to date there either. Instead, go to places where someone you would like would spend their time such as the gym, library, museum, school, church, or sporting clubs. Unfortunately, dating can be a bit of a numbers game where you have to go meet and date a variety of people before you find Mr. or Mrs. Right. However, by looking in the right places, you will definitely hasten the search.
It is also important to look in the right way. Some people get so fixated by dating “rules” that they forget rule number one – be yourself. As a general rule, it is a good idea to avoid people that play games or demonstrate signs of selfishness or self-absorption. It is good to be kind and thoughtful, but to take things slow and don’t appear to be over-eager.
Fill your life with awesomeness
The final but most important step is to fill your life with awesomeness. Finding the right person can take a long time – sometimes many, many years. The best antidote for discouragement is by living in the present and pursuing your dreams now. By filling your life with wonderful things, it helps you be happy in the present. Equally important, however, is that when you do finally find a special person, the awesome things in your life will make you completely irresistible to them. And finally, once you do find that special person, make sure to keep make your marriage amazing by continuing to date your spouse.