Anyone who tells you dating is easy has obviously not been out in the dating world for a while! Finding someone you want is hard, and finding the person you deserve is even more challenging. A lot of women tend to panic when it comes to finding a boyfriend, and cling onto someone who isn’t good enough for them. It’s understandable, but rarely is it a good idea. If you want to find the love you deserve, here are three simple things you must do.
A friend of mine always used to tell me that she knew exactly what she wanted in a man. However, every time she got into a new relationship, she compromised what she wanted to fit the guy she was dating. She would make excuses about why she was wrong about what she needed before, and how this one would be right for her. Time after time, those relationships failed. It wasn’t until she stopped lying to herself about what she wanted, that she found the man of her dreams. Now they are married, and she has everything she was always looking for. Honesty is so important in finding the man you deserve. Without it, you are doomed to fail.
Don’t hold on to baggage
Another challenge women face when they date someone new, is finding a way to dump past relationship baggage. There is nothing worse than finding the perfect guy for you, only to mess it up by projecting your former dating concerns on him. If you were betrayed, belittled, or hurt badly in any way, it’s important to remember that not all men will be the same way. It’s not easy, but in order to be in a healthy relationship, it’s a must.
Don’t be afraid to wait
This is the key to really getting the relationship you deserve. Jumping into something serious with every guy who asks you out is usually a bad idea. They will never be what you want to be, and you’ll have wasted even more time. On the flip side, don’t hold out for perfection. It’s not there. It’s simply a matter of waiting for something that feels right, instead of going for whatever comes your way.
It’s hard to hold out for your dream relationship, but it is always worth the wait. Settling for second best, bringing past drama into the present, and lying to yourself are the quickest ways to fail. Take a deep breath and remember, you deserve the best!
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