I don’t recall my parents ever having a problem with this. Unfortunately, times and attitudes change. Many modern parents can’t seem to get through to their kids. Why is that? Is it the parents fault? Maybe it’s society. Could it be peer pressure? Why don’t modern kids seem to take their parents seriously? Well, of course, Grandma Jaipi has an opinion on the subject. Here it is.
Yes, things are different now.
The question is, why are they different? How does your style of parenting differ from that of your parents and grandparents? Likely, they were much stricter. Sorry, folks, but doesn’t it sometimes seem modern parents aren’t as rigid about parenting as their back in the day counterparts? A sense of humor can be a good thing, On the other hand, if you don’t take yourself seriously as a parent, how do you expect your kids to?
Try asking yourself these questions:
How convincing are you?
What reason do your kids have to expect you are serious in your convictions? Do they see you as the type of person who means what they say? How do you typically react when they go against your rules? Do you sweep it under the carpet? Give them umpteen chances? Are you too soft to be taken seriously? It’s certainly something worth pondering.
How confident are you?
Do you stand up for your beliefs? Are you proud of your parenting skills? Or, are you one of those parents who is always questioning yourself? I hope you don’t let your kids see you being overwhelmed. I hope you don’t tell them they’re driving you crazy. Perhaps the biggest secret to getting your kids to take you seriously is to never let them see you sweat.
How consistent are you?
Are you so wishy washy that your kids never know how they’ll be punished (or if they’ll be punished at all)? Your kids may not take you very seriously if you never or seldom back up your rules with consistent, appropriate consequences. Why should they? You haven’t shown them you care about being a good parent at all. Caring isn’t always about hugs. Sometimes it’s about enforcement.
How persistent are you?
It’s not enough to have a set of consequences. In order for your kids to take you seriously, you have to be persistent. You have to stick to your guns. Let them know there is no chance you will back down. If you always carry through on your promises and punishments, your kids will listen. So, take your role as a parent seriously. Your kids will follow suit.
More from Jaipi:
Stop Doing Your Kids’ Homework!
Strange Parenting Advice – Where Do They Get This Stuff?
Bedtime Battles – Calming the Sensitive Child