A conversation is not a monologue. A conversation is a dialogue between two or more people. A good conversationalist is someone who interacts with and responds to the dynamics of the conversation rather than simply speaking for the sake of being heard. One simple tip is to pay attention and show respect to the person whom you are conversing with. Conversation is an art form and some worry that the art of conversation is losing ground in the ever changing age of multimedia and social networking. Here are a few tips to improve conversational skills.
(1) Keep a daily journal.
Keeping a journal is similar to holding a conversation with yourself. It’s a way to digest and reflect on the different experiences and elements that make up your day. A good conversationalist usually has interesting things to say because she thinks about and reflects on her experiences as well as about world events, books she’s reading, music
(2) Make eye contact during the conversation.
Eye contact with your conversational partner shows that you are interested and engaged in the conversation. It also helps you to follow and interact in the conversation more successfully. The meaning in a conversation is conveyed non-verbally as well as verbally. Paying attention to the person you are speaking with helps you to understand when they are having difficulty following your train of thought.
(3) Avoid dominating the conversation.
Avoid the temptation to finish your conversational partner’s thought. Interrupting or finishing a person’s sentences or thoughts shows an attitude of impatience and disrespect on your part. A good conversation has a natural ebb and flow or, in other words, a life of its own. The natural rhythm and tempo of conversation depends upon the individuals participating in the conversation. Each of us has a particular style and way of articulating our thoughts. It helps to adopt a musical analogy from Miles Davis, “what makes music ‘music’ is the space between the notes,” to make a point. The idea of timing and space works for the art of conversation as well.
(4) Don’t put on airs or pretenses.
Don’t pretend you know what you are talking about if you are unfamiliar with the conversation topic. Set your ego aside and take the opportunity to learn about the topic. Being a good conversationalist does not mean that you have to talk all the time. Ask insightful questions that show you are interested in the topic and would like to learn more about it.she’s listening to and so forth.
(5) Speak clearly and audibly and pay attention to the visual cues .
A conversation can be annoying or irritating when a person is difficult to understand because she are mumbling, speaking too quickly or speaking to slowly. Sometimes we may be unaware that we are speaking too softly or too quickly. An additional benefit of making eye contact with the person you are speaking with is that you know when she or he is having difficulty following your train of thought. A lot of the sense or meaning of a conversation takes place in the physical gestures and non-linguistic parts of the conversation.