Romance can help keep a married couple physically as well as emotionally connected and in tune with each other’s needs and feelings. However, the fairytale “happily ever after” does not happen by chance. How can you keep the romance alive after ten years of marriage?
Write Love Letters and Notes
In the electronic age in which we live where a text message, email or instant message offers the easiest access to those we know, a handwritten letter or note may seem out of touch or even a tad old-fashioned. But before you dismiss love letters and notes, ask yourself: when was the last time was that you received a hand-written love letter or note? Love letters and notes can be very touching and romantic. The best thing is you can read them again and again when you are in need of a lift or a reminder that your spouse cares.
You do not have to spend hours drafting the “perfect” love letter or poring over poetry books in search of flowery language as you compose the message. A few simple lines left in your husband’s lunchbox or affixed to your wife’s laptop can let them know you are thinking of them when you are not together.
Remember Your Anniversary!
Many couples start off well and do not skip a beat when it comes to presenting each other with flowers, chocolates and other gifts. However, over time some forget important occasions such as their wedding anniversary.
Just because you have been married for a decade does not mean you should take your spouse for granted by forgetting your wedding anniversary! Make each wedding anniversary count by buying or making your spouse a card and giving them a thoughtful gift that they can put to good use. Even if you do not have much money to spare, you should still make the effort. A wedding anniversary scrapbook or clothes will bring a smile to your spouse’s face.
Stay in Tune with Each Other’s Physical Needs
A couple’s physical needs do not just include their sexual relationship, even though this plays a major part of it. Intimacy should also be demonstrated throughout the day, such as by holding hands, cuddling up together as you watch TV and kissing. Staying in tune with your spouse’s physical needs outside of the bedroom can help keep you close and affectionate, even after many years of marriage.
Romance should not die out after just a few years of marriage. Unfortunately, many couples drift apart as the romance disappears and they end up living more as housemates or friends, than as husband and wife. Make the effort to keep the romance alive as you approach a decade of marriage. You will be glad you did!
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