What parent doesn’t want to raise strong, confident and independent children? We all have great plans and dreams for our children from the minute they are born. Some are sheltered, or should I say “spoiled” more than others, while some are made to be tough and thick-skinned from the get-go. As long as the situation isn’t carried to the extreme, neither one of these realities is a bad thing: Just simply different ways of doing things. Though perfect parents do not exist, there are millions and millions of good parents, I’ll even go so far as to say great parents. One thing that makes these moms and dads stand-out in a crowd… We don’t even try to pretend we have everything figured out. We learn as we go and do our best and even when we feel completely clueless, usually the answer turns-out to be something we knew all along, like these four basic steps to raising confident and independent children.
Encourage Their Strengths
Each child has his or her own greatness, weather it’s a toddler walking or talking sooner than most children or an older child who always makes amazing grades. Build on those exceptional qualities by offering age-appropriate challenges that provide opportunities for growth and expansion. Never let their success stand idol or stagnate and never accept less than their best.
Just like no parent is perfect, no child is either. Though we should never try to damage our children, it is important to let them know when they mess up or when they aren’t fulfilling their potential. One of the toughest things in life can be the truth, but if handled correctly, it can make us all stronger and better: Children are no exception. There are such things as too sheltered and too spoiled.
Build on Their Success
Let them pave their own way, stand back and see what comes natural to them. Though it is OK to encourage new things, remember they have hopes and dreams for themselves, too. Help them find, develop and improve the tools they already have, building on their natural success and the ones that are yet to come.
Just as you and I like to be rewarded: Getting a bonus at work for a job well done or getting a tax refund at the end of the year for paying our taxes properly. Children respond greatly to it, too. Just be careful with what you use as a reward. If you start out by using money and your paycheck is a little short one week, not allowing enough extra to pay for the reward, you’ve just destroyed your whole reward system. If you aren’t consistent and dedicated, your child may not see the need in it either.
With all of that said, just do your best, trust your gut and love them as much outwardly as you do inwardly… You’ll do just fine~
Source: Everyday Health www.everydayhealth.com and personal opinion and experience
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