We all know men and women don’t understand each other all that well. It really shows in the bedroom. Guys, I have you covered. I have inside information from across enemy lines. A woman gave me The Three Rules. Follow the rules and you might just end up as the guy your former lovers compare their boyfriends against.
Make sure your partner has more fun than you do
It’s time to face facts. We’re guys. That old joke about sex being like pizza (“When it’s good it’s really good and when it’s bad it’s still pretty good”) was made with us in mind. We’re simple creatures. It’s easy to make us reach out peak. Women – not so much.
That means you need to keep her in mind all the time in bed. If you reach completion once she should, too – preferably more enjoyably than you, and hopefully more times than you.
Pay attention to what she needs. That includes listening to anything she says and noticing her non-verbal cues. Put off your own enjoyment in favor of hers. You can finish almost any time you want, but helping her finish might take effort. Be willing to put in the work. Make the experience about her more than about yourself.
Don’t make the common mistakes after the fact
When the physical act is over men do some pretty dumb things. Any of them are insulting to their partners. Here are the top three.
- Rolling over and going to sleep – if you do that you are telling her she was basically a masturbation tool and you’re done with her.
- Going to the rest room to wash – doing that tells your lady friend you think she is nasty, and not in the hot and sexy way.
- Getting up and leaving – This makes your partner feel disposable.
Avoid those three actions at all costs. If you insult a woman with any of those actions you may not find yourself in bed with her ever again.
Connect with her afterward
The act of physical love involves the dropping your defenses a bit. You open yourself up to acceptance or rejection by another person. Your lover will see you naked and judge you. You risk being found unsatisfactory as a partner. Getting in bed with someone carries risk, and going ahead with it involves trust.
That state of mind is perfect for connecting with your lover. Snuggle afterward. Talk. Listen. Learn about her. Let her discover how interested in her you are and how much you value her. There’s rarely a better time for it.
By following these three rules you’ll become a treasured romantic asset in the lives of your lovers.