I am in a long distance relationship. My friends think I’m crazy, they say “Long distance doesn’t work”, or “Why do you even bother?”, I say yes it does work because it’s almost our five year anniversary, and if long distance didn’t work we wouldn’t have lasted this long.
Scott and I met on a social site, he lives in California and I in New York. It’s nearly three-thousand miles apart at the opposite ends of the country, but we’ve learned how to deal with it. We find ways to do things together, we listen to music, watch videos together, we have Skype dates, and play online games together. The internet has definitely made our relationship easier to cope with, but most of our time is spent on the phone. We use to run up our parents phone bills like crazy until I decided to get my own phone. Now we talk every day! Our conversations are mostly about our daily activities or just random talks about life or even planning visits to see one another.
We have visited each other multiple times. We usually see each other every three months but I’m sure that our visits will only become more frequent. During our time apart we send cookies and write each other letters with pictures and send cards and gifts for birthdays, Christmas, Easter, anniversaries, and even for no reason. We have grown very close together, much closer than any other couple, I think it’s mostly because we couldn’t see each other so we just talked about everything and really got to know one another extremely well. It is really hard living so far away though, you don’t have someone there to do normal things with, like going to the movies and you see other couples together and it makes you really lonely, I even went to my prom alone, but I guess you kind of get use to it after a while. Our parents weren’t really into the whole online dating thing, especially mine, and it took a while for them to get use to the idea, but after meeting Scott and his Mom and seeing how we are together, they felt better about it.
Scott and I have been together a long time but that doesn’t mean it’s a perfect relationship, we have our ups and downs just like everyone else. We have had some pretty bad fights and have broken up a couple times, not for long though, but it made us so much stronger. We understand each others weaknesses and we are very open and honest and say what’s on our mind. Some people ask “How do you know if the other is cheating or not?”, well we’ve already been through it from the beginning of our relationship and we are so attached to each other that having almost lost our bond once and being miserable, we found that we really need each other. A lot of work is being put into this relationship from both of us, but so far its been working, and we are both happy. Scott started out as my friend and then into something more, it just kind of happened, it wasn’t planned, we just clicked.
Long distance relationships seem frowned upon, but I don’t think that’s right. If you truly love someone then what is a couple thousand miles? It all comes down to how important someone is to you. It’s a commitment just like any other relationship you enter into. The main cause of long distance breakups is distance, it’s fun at first but things just get too serious and you realize you can’t do everyday activities with that person. You can’t kiss, can’t hug, can’t dance, somehow you aren’t truly a couple. Yes it sucks, and it hurts, but I know that it’ll be worth it in the end. Scott, to me, is the best boyfriend in the world. He has given up so much to be with me and talks to me all the time on the phone. The main problem we use to have was we weren’t giving each other enough space. He would go to school, come home, talk to me on the computer for about six to eight hours and then go to bed, but through many fights, we learned to give one another our personal space and time for friends, after all, absence makes the heart grown fonder.
My long distance relationship has definitely affected my life and my future plans. I will still pursue my plans and goals in life but now we have each other. There is someone else there to support me and to encourage me and someone to share everything with. We aren’t teenagers anymore and we plan on moving closer together and taking that next step in our relationship. Our commitment is so strong, and I can’t wait for the day that i no longer have a long distance relationship and will consider that a success. Long distance works as long as you have the patience and time to commit to someone who is worth it. If it’s meant to be, you will always find a way.