Many people go through life suffering with jealousy and they live in a cocoon of unhappiness and suspicious minds throughout their life if they do not wake up and “get” over it. It can destroy special occasions and it can destroy a relationship with family, friends, and partners too. Jealousy gnaws at the mind and it causes people to do and say things they would never say or do if the jealousy didn’t exist.
It’s my belief that jealousy starts at a very early age in children and it grows into adulthood. They’ll start out being jealous of their siblings, their friends, and their parents. I do believe jealousy starts when a person has feelings of insecurity brought on by what they believe is someone complementing siblings more than they do them, showing others favoritism, and feeling they’re not loved as much as another sibling, friend, or by their parents. It’s my belief that many of us when we were children may have felt a sort of jealousy about one thing or another, I know I can remember having jealous feelings at times and I can remember how bad it felt then.
Jealousy manifests in a person’s teen years and on into their adulthood years too. When it goes into the adult stage, this is when it festers and becomes revengeful and hateful to others. Oft times the person will become jealous of what other people have when they don’t have it; they’ll get the feeling they’re entitled to having it too. They’ll grieve about not having what someone else has until they’ll build up such insecurity that it affects their relationships with almost everybody.
Have you ever seen a child who is actually jealous of their own parents for who they are and what they have in their lives? It doesn’t matter how long the parents went to school to become who they are or how many years they’ve had to work to get what they’ve got. Oft times the child will be so jealous of their parents, they do not want to visit or to be friendly with them any longer because jealousy is tearing them apart and they cannot stand to be around them because they feel they’re entitled to these same types of things.
I’ve seen this happen with many children within families over the years. People who are jealous feels they’re entitled to have what they want immediately and without working for it too. They do not care who they hurt or what they have to do to live up to what other people have. They’ll oft times try to live up to the Jones` within their neighborhoods and they’ll purchase things that are one grade higher than what their neighbor has. This stands out like a sore thumb to others in the neighborhood because they know all of their purchases are brought on from the person’s jealousy. It doesn’t take long for people to get to know a jealous person.
Listen up those of you who are jealous and suffer from angst because of your serious jealous habits; there are cures for you, and you yourself, can gain back your life and independence, finding peace and happiness without being jealous of anyone.
The first thing for you to do is to understand you’re on this earth because God gave life to you, breathing life into your being. God didn’t make a difference in you when you were born, etc. You’re special in God’s eyes as is everyone and he didn’t bring you here on this earth with jealousy in your heart, soul, and mind. He brought you here in the flesh to dwell upon the earth among people and you were given the same qualities as all of those who were born before you and after you. God has a planned journey for every one of us to travel in life and it sure isn’t to live a life of jealousy to destroy our minds and souls as human beings.
Second, let go of the jealousy and find happiness by going back into the arms of your family, friends, loved ones, and partners. You must stop feeling jealous and comparing what others have in their lives with what you have but start to concentrate on what you desire in your own life. Don’t copy what others have because this doesn’t buy you happiness. Be happy for what you have and enjoy the fact that what you have you worked for it and earned it too.
Get the “you, you” out of your thoughts and think about the greatness of the day you have and enjoy it to the fullest. As you do this in your life, you’ll find what others have doesn’t bother you one bit. It’s important to remember those who have plenty also suffer through trial and a tribulation like everyone else does, there’s no exemption. What a person has doesn’t represent what they have in their heart and soul either.
Third, start focusing on what you do have and begin to think about the positive things you have in your life. There’s so much in life to acquire without being jealous of what others have. Consider your family, your health, your happiness and desires, and that you want to raise your family to be happy with what they’ve worked for and also earned. I don’t know about you but I don’t want to run a race with the Jones` because my race is for my family and my own life, I could care less what someone else owns or has.
Also give some heavy thoughts to how jealousy can cause you to charge your credit cards to the hilt because you’re trying to keep up with your peers and/or neighbors. In a lot of cases this takes away from things your family maybe in dire need of requiring.
Once you’ve managed to escape this terrible disease called “jealousy” you’ll begin to be your own person and you’ll never be jealous of what someone else has that you don’t again. You’ll find such peace and happiness in your heart and soul; you’ll never want to think about those dreadful days that you’ve finally shed.
Article written by Barbara Kasey Smith – Copyright 2012 – This is the belief of Barbara and what she believes cause jealousy in people’s lives.
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