Quirks? We all have them. You have them. So do your kids. Why is it so important to learn your kids’ quirks? Well, mainly so you don’t disturb a sleeping giant. Learning your kids’ quirks is like getting used to a new car. If you don’t do the right thing with either, in the right order, at the right time, you could end up in the ditch.
My daughter has an interesting, yet annoying quirk. You can never, ever talk to her when she first wakes up. She’s just a real, never-mind, I can’t use that word here. Suffice it to say if you talk to my daughter when she has first arisen, you may lose an arm, your head, or both in the process. Sometimes I forget this little quirk she has. That’s interesting too. Not to mention, deadly.
My son is an over-analyzer. Now, before I continue, let me say this. He is very good at solving whatever problem you might have. He’s been doing this since he was a very small child. He’s 31 now. If you ask my son to solve a problem, do expect it to be tackled at all angles and every perspective possible, before he gives you a solution. Do not expect him to stop worrying about it until he figures it out. He gets that worrying thing from me.
I envy my grandson. He has no worry genes whatsoever. He does as he pleases and to heck with the consequences. It does cause quite a bit of turmoil, though. He doesn’t care if the whole house is littered in toys. He doesn’t care if he has a runny nose or his shoes are on the right foot. He’s in it to win it. The messes he creates on the way to his goal are someone else’s problem. He’s a single focus kind of guy. You have to look him right in the eyes to get his attention at all. Or, just get out of the way. He’s got a mission. Your paltry concerns are of no consequence.
Some of the quirks my kids and grand-kids have lean toward the positive side. I have a grand-daughter with the best sense of humor and wisdom since George Carlin. I have a rock star/dancer extraordinaire grand-daughter. I have a grand-daughter who is so helpful, we should have named her Betty Crocker. My grandson is super smart. They all are. Both my daughters go for what they want and they usually get it. My son is an absolute genius in a humble package.
Why should you pay attention to your kids quirks? Your kids’ quirks provide clues as to how they’ll respond to your guidance. Getting to know the timing of their mood swings tells you when to approach them with concerns and questions. In the case of my daughter, that would not be right after she wakes up. Every kid has different quirks. It’s one of the reasons you have to deal with your kids in different ways. If you value your head.
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