Tweens can be pretty energetic. How can a parent with physical challenges keep up? It’s not easy. Believe me, I know. I was a divorced single parent of three with rheumatoid arthritis. There were days when just getting out of bed was impossible. Those tween years were a real challenge. Now, I’m a grandmother of four with physical limitations. Here’s the best advice I can give after years of parenting and grand-parenting while physically limited.
Physical punishments are out. Let’s face it, they don’t work anyway. Of course, that’s just my opinion. If you want to use corporal punishment on your tweens, that’s your prerogative. I wish you luck catching them. All kidding aside, when I became physically limited, I was glad I chose a less physical means of discipline for my kids from the start. There was no way I could discipline them physically. It’s a good thing I already had consequence related discipline strategies in place when my disability occurred. In fact, I think my kids are better for it.
Put some work-arounds in place. In other words, take it easy on yourself. The smoother your day goes, the easier it will be to parent those tweens. So, go ahead and purchase those home health aids. Install a grip bar in the bath. Get some handy gadgets that make you more self sufficient. Using them will keep you from tiring before your parenting day is through. Remember, physical exhaustion does you no good and makes it pretty difficult to parent effectively. So, give yourself a hand up with work-arounds. You’ll be less physically stressed and a more effective parent.
Let tweens help you with physical tasks. Some people might suggest otherwise. They might say not to let kids see your struggles. I say, throw pride out the window. By enlisting the help of your tweens, you teach them empathy and compassion. So what if you’re physically challenged? That doesn’t make you a less capable parent. It just gives you the ability to turn a potential limitation into a positive quality to instill in your kids.
Concentrate on your positive strengths to inspire your tweens. Imagine the opportunity you have here. Your kids are watching you. How do you handle the fact that you’re physically challenged? Do you let it defeat you? Hopefully not. Hopefully, you rise to accept the challenge life has thrown you. Why? Your tweens will be grown and gone before you know it. How will they handle life’s struggles? That depends on the example you set for them. You have a unique opportunity to show them what you’re made of. Don’t pass it up.
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