There are numerous reasons for why relationships work and why some are severed. Relationships can be complicated. They require constant work; the work is a constant battle to keep the connection a positive one. Granted, everyone has their ups and downs. If it weren’t for the ups and downs there would be nothing to work towards. However, the constant battle to keep the relationship going in a positive direction can become a battle of ware and tare.
When you’re connected to someone, a loose thread in the relationship can cause sadness, grief, frustration, anger and disappointment; leaving you faced with a problem that calls for some type of resolution.
Feelings are strong emotions that keep us attached to one another and it’s not always easy to remedy what we feel when our ego has been bruised by the one we are in a relationship with. It’s at that moment of feeling bruised emotions that a choice comes into play; am I going to hang in there and work this out or do I walk away.
When problems arise in relationships, I think we come face to face with ourselves. It’s then that we see who we are. If we’re looking at ourselves and not the other person, we reflect on our actions. Think about it for a moment. Isn’t it true that when you have an argument or a disagreement and you temporarily distance yourself to reflect on the situation, that you’re left with “yourself” to ponder the details? Within those moments of pondering, don’t you see yourself? Aren’t you evaluating what you might have done wrong to cause the thread to loosen?
When I keep seeing myself in a relationship, what that reveals to me is that I’m constantly learning and growing. Life is teaching me what it wants me to learn in order for me to become a more knowledgeable, wiser person. It’s only when I don’t see myself due to denial, pride, selfishness or naivety that the thread in the relationship continues to come untwined because I’m not growing; I’m not becoming more responsible and accountable. Ultimately, the relationship is severed due to a lack of not seeing “me.”
That’s not to say that the relationship is being severed solely on me not seeing myself; there could be other reasons why things just aren’t working out. However, the fact is, no matter what the reasons might be, if you’re really looking at yourself in the relationship, the reflection will bring you face to face with the inner you and cause you to grow beyond whatever the reason is.
The same stands true for relationships that work. No matter what the reasons are, you were constantly looking at yourself along the way or it wouldn’t have worked. Each person in the relationship has to come face to face with their self in order to make things better.