Marriage is not just about the big white wedding and the presents. It involves the exchange of binding vows and a lifelong commitment between couples who plan to work at their union. As such, it is vital that you make the right choice of spouse right from the very beginning so that you are not left bitterly regretting your decision later on or headed for divorce. Should you go ahead with the wedding if you have any doubts?
Do Not Follow in the Footsteps of Celebrity Couples
Many couples ignore serious doubts that they have about their prospective marriage partner and rush headlong into marriage, only discovering later on that they made the wrong decision. Do not follow in the footsteps of celebrity couples who rush into a hasty marriage, only to end their union before the ink is even dry on their marriage certificate.
It is far better to suffer the temporary embarrassment and inconvenience of having to cancel your wedding plans now rather than to go through with it and face the greater pain of living with the consequences of your actions. After all, the drama from a cancelled wedding will blow over. But the broken pieces from a failed marriage will take a lot longer to put back together.
Is it Nerves or Serious Doubts?
It is only natural to get the jitters as you are preparing to walk down the aisle. Everyone gets nervous. But these feelings normally pass. However, if your doubts continue, you should carefully examine why you are feeling that way.
If you have any doubts at all in the lead up to the wedding, do not ignore those doubts. Take the time to seriously consider your decision. Are you getting married for the right reasons? Are there any serious character flaws in your prospective spouse that could endanger your physical or welfare in future? Many newlyweds mistakenly believe that they will be able to “change” an alcoholic, gambler or drug addict once they have a ring on their finger.
Think Long Term
Many couples only think of the here and now and do not contemplate what life will be like with their spouse in 10, 20 or more years from now. Will the same doubts that are plaguing you now still be an issue in the future? Or are they small issues that can be easily resolved before you get married?
Remember that you will face a lot more heartache in years to come if you feel trapped in an unhappy union than you would be if you were to take control and break off the engagement before it is too late.
Marriage should be taken seriously, which is why you should never ignore any doubts you may be having in the run up to the wedding. Do not give in to pressure or ignore valid doubts by going through with a wedding that could end up marring your happiness or the happiness of your prospective spouse.
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