It isn’t always easy to tell whether or not a guy is truly interested in you or if he is just passing his time with you until someone else comes along. You can spend hours analyzing things he says or does in order to make sense of it all. Instead of sitting around worrying about where the relationship is headed, be proactive. If you aren’t sure whether or not he is entertaining the idea that you may be “the one,” there are some things you should look for in his actions and words. These are the things you should pick up on, and what they mean in his eyes.
He picks up the phone to ask about your day
This could be anything from a speech you had to give to a test you had to take that had you worried. If he calls and asks about it, he is definitely in to you. Men take notice of things you say if they really care about you as a person. He will remember things you said to him and put them away for further reference. When I first started dating my husband, he would call and ask how things at work went when he knew it was the end of the month and we were balancing things. It is the little things he asks about that make it known he is interested and possibly in it for the long haul.
You get more face time than his friends
The male code is pretty cut and dry. They have a saying about guy friends before girlfriends, and when he chooses you over them for the evening, it means he likes you more than just a little bit. When relationships are new, both parties try and salvage their friendships and still date the new person. When it becomes more serious, friends get seen less and your significant other gets seen more.
He wants you to meet his mom
Meeting a guy’s mom is a huge deal and something that should not be taken lightly. It was a good seven months into our relationship before my husband took me to meet his mother. When that happened, it sort of sealed the deal. I knew he wanted something more than just a casual dating experience. Men are often quite private with their dating lives and often don’t incorporate their families into the mix. If he invites you to meet his family, especially his mom, take it as a sign he is ready to move forward.
It is not always easy to know where the guy you are dating stands in terms of your relationship, but these are simple things that will answer your questions. If he isn’t making an effort to see you, or his guy friends are taking up all of his free time, he may not be the one for you. Take this all into consideration before deciding whether or not you want to further your relationship and where the future may take you. If these things are present, chances are he is really in to you.
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