The excitement of marriage for many couples seems to dwindle over time. However it doesn’t have to. Marriage can always be exciting regardless if a couple has been together for 2 years or 20 years. However both people have to make the effort to keep that excitement rolling. For professional advice I have asked psychotherapist Barbara J. Peters, Elayne Savage, Israel Helfand, Cathie Helfand and Sandra Reishus how married couples can make their marriage an exciting success.
Barbara J Peters, LPC (License# LPC002758), RN, Cumming, GA
www.bjpcounseling.com and www.thegiftofalifetime.net
“‘Sneak an affair with your spouse’. Being the ‘other’ woman just might be the thing to add excitement to your marriage. In counseling it’s become apparent that many have lost ‘that loving feeling’ and were more of less just treading water in their relationship. I suggest having an affair with each other. Doing the things to make it exciting: sending love notes, meeting in secret places, sending provocative text messages, leaving a date card with special details of where to go and when (of course, having already made arrangements for the kids in advance).”
Elayne Savage, PhD., Licensed Marriage Family Therapist, CA
http://www.QueenofRejection.com License# MFC 17077
“Give each other a long, warm hug when you first come together after work. Talking can come later it’s the hug connection that sets the tone for the rest of the evening. A hug in the morning before starting your day works great too.”
Israel Helfand MS, Ph.D., CST, LMFT, Cabot, Vermont
Cathie Helfand, MS, Cabot, Vermont
www.sexploration.org and www.marriagequest.com
“Lets put the FU back in FUN. Erotic pleasure is a major source of fun, pleasure and a useful bonding technique for married couples. Create a role-play drawing upon any fantasy that feels naughty. Being that sexual fantasies are rooted in our early memories of childhood, fantasy could be a great, cathartic and fun exercise. Play dress up, adult hide and seek, teacher student, play doctor, the ideas are endless and the idea is to have fun.”
Sandra Reishus, Clinical Sexologist, Sacramento, California
”A great way to make marriage a success is to find new things as a couple to do together. Skinny dipping in the nearest body of water, building a personal retreat for both of you in your backyard, learning to kiss five different ways, washing each others hair, taking a drive somewhere close by that you’ve never been, cooking dinner in the nude, are some examples.”
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