We have been designed for connection. Our eyes connect with a view. Our ears connect with a sound. Our mind connects with various thoughts. To connect with the opposite sex is understandable, but the do’s and don’ts must be carefully considered if all is to be done right. In this dating game, as it has been called by younger generations for decades, is often misunderstood. A thought to remember, someone whom you may feel qualifies for your attention may not be qualified to receive your heart.
I would like to give some suggestions that will hopefully do 3 major things:
- protect your focus,
- reduce distractions, and
- create an atmosphere of protection.
Let’s sample what I’m speaking of. If the person you are interested in is not a giving person you might want to reconsider how far to go in the relationship. I’m not talking about the giving of expensive gifts, money or clothing. I’m referring to a listening ear, being flexible, patient and willing to be corrected when necessary. These are expensive gifts.
Think twice if the person you’re interested in never asks questions about your dreams and goals. Questions reveal desire to want to know about the person. Who they really are, what they really think and why. Begin to push yourself into a new area of communication that will further develop you and the one you are interested in.
If you do not see the relationship continuously improving consider moving on. It doesn’t take long to see this if you are looking. If conflict is the dominant part of your relationship friendship won’t happen. Conflict and strife will be the main driving forces of the relationship and that spells misery. Strife is always the evidence of differing belief systems.
If they have little pain or remorse concerning their past take time to think carefully. A repentant heart is not arrogant. Repentant people do not blame others for their right or wrong decisions. We all make mistakes, but to express no regret only opens the door to do it again. To pursue a relationship with someone who obviously does not have a genuine fear of God will only set you up to enter into their rebellion. You will never respect anyone you are capable of deceiving.
Last thought to consider is beauty, being handsome, or having money does not guarantee faithfulness. Only the fear of God keeps a person faithful. Even if you are not thinking of getting into a relationship now, these thoughts will help you when you do. Don’t lose this info. It just might save you from great hurt and disappointment in the future.