Many people treat their relationships with the opposite sex as a game. Guys play the line out to see what they can get. Ladies play the line out to see whom they can get. Yes, I will agree not everyone thinks this way, but in our society this appears to be a more popular trend than not. Nevertheless, let’s look at some suggestions which can assist us in better understanding dating.
If you are interested in someone who enjoys the climate and atmosphere of rebellious people be careful. If you insist on dating someone comfortable with rebellious, stubborn, arrogant people you are in for heartbreak. When someone enjoys breaking the law, putting people down, thinks holy living is a joke, and the like, a great relationship will not happen.
Think twice if the person is highly motivated to attract the attention of the opposite sex. Some women are only satisfied when they are the “center of attention” and every man in the room gathers around them. Some men cannot pass a mirror without staring at their imagined grandeur. Will anybody say they understand what I mean?
When the one you are interested in shows little to no respect for your time and plans it is time to think cautiously. If they are always late, frequently forgets what is important to you, and apologizes half-heartedly think carefully about going any further in the relationship. A persons respect for schedule, time and your agenda says a lot about them.
There is an old saying that says, “Sometimes four eyes are better than two.” Yes, I know it sounds goofy, but others sometimes see things we just don’t. Let’s take a look at a few more you might not be seeing clearly.
When a person has not exited previous relationships the right way be careful. Some people live on strife. Anything they cannot own or control they will destroy. Warfare is their fuel. It is impossible to have a great relationship with someone who enjoys not keeping the peace.
When their own dreams are not big enough to motivate them be careful. If they can sleep most of the day, watch TV most of the night, and refuse to produce anything worthwhile be careful.
Think again if they feel inferior to you. Everyone is superior to others in some way or another. Yet those who may one day walk beside you must feel confident and qualified to do so. If not the walk will be difficult.
My closing thought is found in a theme I have personally tried to live. “You can’t be what you must be by being what you have been.” Please take some time to consider this for your life.