“A great marriage is not when a perfect couple comes together. It is when an imperfect couple grows together and learns to enjoy their differences.” ~ Dave Meurer
Marriage isn’t the sacred temple it used to be. Even though vows may include, “till death do us part”, a large percent of marriages still end up in divorce. So why do couples still run to the altar, while gay and lesbian couples also fight for the right to marry?
An obvious argument can be made regarding the legal, financial, and tax benefits afforded to married couples. Why would any two people who are committed to each other not want the legal protections and advantages of a married couple?
Marriage provides both parties with legal and financial advantages too numerous to list in this article. Some of the benefits include: less income tax when filing joint returns, decreased auto insurance premiums, social security benefits, gift or estate tax benefits, sharing of employer benefits including bereavement, sick and family leave, “next of kin” status, death benefits, and joint parental rights of children.
However, the benefits to body, mind and spirit have a much greater effect. Research has shown that married people live longer and have significantly higher levels of happiness than single people or cohabiting couples. Cohabiting couples (couples living together) also do not make the same commitment to their partner that married partners make.
There is something different, something special, about being married. Marriage carries a unique bond and shows a solid commitment to each other as a couple. When people know you are married they assume you are a unit; a package deal. Social graces are extended to wives and husbands that are optional or omitted when not married. Marriage gains you automatic respect from your spouses’ family and friends.
Publicly declaring your love for someone is one of the most romantic things you can do and shows another level of your love for each other. You have made a public vow to fight for your relationship and have included your friends and family in what you consider a very important aspect of your life.
Marriage solidifies a relationship and is also a powerful statement. You legally, financially and socially bind yourself to the other person in ways that will make it difficult to impulsively walk away. Marriage shows you truly love your partner and want to show that commitment by becoming their spouse, intending to spend the rest of your life together.
While some can joke that husbands sometimes forget about anniversaries, at least married couples have anniversaries to celebrate. Married couples have that special time to reflect, reminisce and celebrate a time that is all about them and their life together.
Marriage can provide two people with a level of love, companionship, support, commitment, security, and family that is priceless and can’t be measured. Try it, maybe you won’t like it, maybe you’ll LOVE it!
Sources include: personal opinion and the following websites: