Actions have consequences and just because those consequences are not favorable to us, does not mean that we get to avoid them. This is what I believe when it comes to getting pregnant. Everyone is aware that one of the consequences of having sex is getting pregnant. Just like it is possible to contract a sexually transmitted disease. People are also aware that using protection is not guaranteed to prevent you from getting pregnant. In my opinion, if someone does not want to get pregnant, they should not be taking part in activities that could get them pregnant. Would you play football if you were not interested in getting hurt? I’m sure some people would say yes to this. However, you would play with the knowledge that it is possible for you to get hurt. Even though you use protection, you would be aware that your helmet could come off or you could fall so hard that even the helmet would not prevent the damage to your head. Once you do get hurt, you can’t be mad at anyone because you chose the action (playing football) that led to the consequence (getting hurt). And what do you do once you get hurt? Do you say let’s just cut off my head and pretend it never happened?
I believe that abortion is murder. It’s taking the life of an innocent person that has not even had a chance to do any wrong. When someone is pregnant, they automatically think of a baby. The whole argument about whether a fetus is a child or when exactly it is considered that there is life inside of you is irrelevant because no one hears that they are pregnant and says hey, there’s juice inside of me! You know it’s a child and you can try to justify abortion by saying that the body parts were not yet formed but you are aware that life was being created. It’s crazy to me how upset someone would be to hear that a one year old child was murdered but they don’t show that same disgust when a few months old baby was killed. At least the one year old may have broken something valuable or scratched someone’s face but what did the fetus do to deserve death? Because their parents made an irresponsible decision? Why is it that the baby gets to pay for that?
I am a christian so I don’t believe in sex before marriage. However, I am aware that it happens and I know that everyone does not share my beliefs. Still, I think that responsible adults need to make responsible decisions. If you don’t want to have a baby, don’t have sex. And unless you are at an age where you can make responsible decisions, you shouldn’t be having sex anyways. I don’t understand why there is a certain age that is too young for a person to drive or drink or go to the army but there is no age requirement for someone to be having sex. We see shows like 16 & Pregnant where children are attempting to raise children while attempting to also have a life of their own. And of course I admire them for making the difficult choice since the alternative would have been to get rid of their child but why are they getting themselves in that situation in the first place?
I know that there are exceptions and even for me, there are certain situations that I honestly don’t know what is the right decision to be made. I know that some people get pregnant because of rape or because they were mentally challenged and did not know that they could say no and how do you say to these people, you must keep that child? And I could say there’s always adoption but how could you want to force someone to go through nine months of carrying their abuser’s child, destroying their body, facing ridicule, only to give that child away in the end and live with all the regret and shame that comes along with that? I would love to say that if I was ever to be in that situation, I would keep the child, forgive my rapist and move on but I can’t guarantee that that would be my mindset at the time. So for people in those situations, I am sympathetic because they did not choose what happened to them. I don’t want to say what I think would be best to do because what’s best for one person may not be best for another. Some people are able to get over those situations and move on with their lives while some are continually affected by it and can never go back to having a normal life. My feelings are not towards those people but towards the people that make the conscious decision to have sex, knowing that there are consequences.
I believe that everyone deserves a chance to live. I don’t think it’s anyone’s right to take a life regardless of what that person has done. I don’t think that murder is a good punishment for murder because you are only judged for your actions and not for the actions of others. And I definitely don’t think that murder is the answer to dealing with the consequences of an irresponsible decision that you made.