Safe sex sounds so perfect. It combines two terms that people consider important in their lives. The thought of safe sex is somewhat comforting. Safe sex implies that nothing can or will go wrong. There will be no disease, no pregnancy, and no problems. None of these ideas can be 100% right if there is sex.
Safe sex was never meant to be a substitute term for contraception.
It was coined in the aftermath of the AIDS outbreak as a way to lessen the chances of contracting that awful disease. When it comes to preventing pregnancy, safe sex can fail in several ways.
Condoms can break.
Condoms are the leading tools associated with safe sex. Latex condoms are expected to seal off any exits for infected bodily fluid from one person to invade the body of another. In truth, a good condom does this pretty well during sexual intercourse. However, reality reminds us that condoms can and do break. Plenty of teen pregnancies attest to this fact. A flaw in the condom’s construction, using it improperly, damage, or trying to reuse it can lead to product failure just when you need it the most. (http://aids.about.com/od/condominformation/a/Propercondom.htm)
Some types of condoms may allow sperm to seep out.
Because of increased sensitivity, condoms made from natural products are preferred in some circles. Some of these condoms have pores that may be able to let sperm escape. This is rare. In a world where millions use such products, it only takes a small percentage of failure to generate an unwanted pregnancy. Some even question whether this type of condom is able to stop the AIDS virus from escaping. It is the worst of both worlds. They probably are not safe, and they may not always prevent pregnancy. (http://contraception.about.com/od/malecondom/g/lambskin.htm)
Genital to genital touching before the condom is used.
Often people believe that foreplay involving genital touching is safe and will not lead to pregnancy. If any of the seminal fluid from the man makes contact with the female’s genital area, a pregnancy is possible. If this happens repeated, each contact increases the chances of conception..
Semen can be allowed to leak out if the condom if not handled correctly after sex.
Because people like to play after sex is completed, the condom may be viewed as a toy. If the trapped semen is allowed to run out, it can contaminate the exterior of the device. If the condom touches the wrong place, a baby can be created. (http://www.fda.gov/ForConsumers/byAudience/ForPatientAdvocates/HIVandAIDSActivities/ucm126372.htm)
Safe sex is not always “safe” sex.
Unfortunately, people are not always honest about how safe their sex is. Men and women alike can choose to cheat. Women can offer a condom that has been tampered with so it will fail. They may try to entice the man to have unprotected sex. Likewise, men may tell the woman that the protection is in place when their plan is to have unprotected sex because they do not like or do not want to use a condom. This can also be a problem after sex when after the condom is removed and overly intimate snuggling occurs