Jolie Huntington, the wife of Arthur Huntington, the Secret Service agent who stiffed a Colombian hooker out of $772.00, has decided to stand by her husband. Forgetting the scandal and worldwide publicity that this case has attracted, I believe there is a much bigger issue here, which is not being addressed. Let’s forget the fact that her husband was in another country, cavorting in a room with other men and prostitutes. Let’s forget for now the fact that her husband didn’t even pay 4% of the bill for “services rendered.”
What I would like to discuss is why a woman like this would stand by her man at this time. Unfortunately, this isn’t the first time we’ve seen something like this, and I’m pretty sure it’s not going to be last. Whether it was Bill Clinton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Tiger Woods or Gene Simmons we were seeing how the actions of these men affect the women who love them.
For some of these women, it is a telltale sign that it’s time for them to move on. But for others, they see it as an opportunity to stand by their men and show their love and support. So if a woman stands by her man in the face of infidelity, is she being a loving and supportive wife or a fool who simply doesn’t want to see what is right in front of her face? I guess we will never know the true answers unless we walk in each woman’s shoes, but I think if we look closely, there are certain signs which let us know which one it is.
The biggest concerning factor is when the wife and those around her start making excuses and justifying the cheater’s behavior. And this is what concerns me in this case. According to the wife and several friends and family members, this type of behavior is atypical and not really in character with the man that Arthur Huntington is.
In fact according to an article in the NY Daily News, Teresita Rodriguez, who along with her husband, Pastor Rodriguez, has known Huntington since he was a child and has stated ,”It’s out of character- the Arthur I know, he’s very dedicated to his family, very loyal.” And also a family member, who did not want her name revealed, said: “He wouldn’t do that, not the Arthur I know. He wouldn’t. They go to church every week.”
Well, if he wouldn’t do that why is he no longer employed by the Secret Service?
I believe the telltale sign of what kind of man Huntington really is, is being overlooked by many. Most people are focusing on the indiscretion and the fact that he was cavorting with a prostitute?
Now, I know that people make mistakes, Lord knows I’ve made plenty myself. But, I also know that there is always stuff going on under the surface, which paints the real picture. And in this case I believe it is the fact that Huntington not only employed the prostitute, but also paid her only 4% of her bill. Merely paying her $28 of an $800 tab for her “services” once again reveals that this man isn’t the church going, family loving man of character that he convinced most people that he is.
I’m not privy to what is going on between the four walls in the Huntington household but I will tell you this, if those individuals around Arthur Huntington believe that he is a man of character just because he puts up a good front and goes to church on Sundays, they all better get their eyes checked.
I hope Mrs. Huntington is being honest with herself. Because if she is standing by her man because she refuses to open up to the possibility that her husband is not the man she thought he was, she’s going to regret her decision. And that would be a shame.