As a person who has suffered from neurosis mood disorder, specifically Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) since childhood, I have been treated by two different types of medications such as Zoloft and Xanax. Unfortunately, though the medication may have appeared to help me cope and function throughout my daily activities, my body was unable to deal with the side effects. The most common side effects I suffered were eye twitching, insomnia, and severe eye dilation. After many years of switching medication throughout my early adulthood, I decided to seek out a natural remedies to cure my anxiety.
My love for people inspired me as I grew older to go into the psychology field, which my focus was primarily youth counseling. Throughout my personal experience and education, I have discovered the primary trigger to neurotic behavior, and how to naturally deal with (or let go of) uncomfortable situations with obsessive thoughts. Let’s take the following example:
While coming home from work, you think about an event that upset you. It seems that you had a rough day. Hey, it happens! If you dwell on the events, it can develop into peculiar behavior known as neurotic tension. Let’s discover three reactions that are common when people are faced with anxiety, and what is the best way to deal with stressful events.
For instance: Today you walked into work, and found out you were supposed to arrive an hour early for a meeting. Disgruntled, you punch your time clock, and walk in the meeting late. Do you take responsibility, play the blame game, or sulk in your own pity party?
Let’s take a look at each example of a gentlemen walking into work late, forgetting that he had a meeting and was supposed to come in one hour prior.
Person One: The Responsible One (I should have known better)
This individual takes responsibility for his actions. He remembers that he did see a notice for the meeting and forgot to write it down in his personal calendar. Conclusion:
He realizes that next time he will do better at taking notes, and as soon as a notice is posted, he will mark it down promptly to avoid missing another meeting. This person is able to learn from his experience and move on from the situation. For example: In time, he may be able to climb the ladder in the company.
Person Two: The Blamer (It is not my fault)
This individual convinces himself that it was his bosses fault. Conclusion:
He shifts his faulty actions and places them upon another person in order to defend himself. Unfortunately with this attitude, this individual will not be able to thrive in a social environment because his relationships will prove to be destructive. For example: He may lose his job.
Person Three: The Extremist (Let me find the highest cliff and jump)
This individual decides that his self-worth has completely disappeared. Conclusion:
He summarizes that he is a failure, and there he shouldn’t go on trying no more. Extremist individuals find it difficult to accept when they have done something wrong. They tend to worry a lot about what people say or what people are thinking. Therefore, they cannot move on from the situation. Example: They may quit their job and find a way to escape their troubling thoughts.
Self-examination is crucial to the mental well being of an individual. If a person cannot handle life’s difficulties, they have the potential to take the exit to self-destruction in a way to escape from their current situation.
These behaviors include:
2. Drug Addiction
4. Abnormal Habits
To achieve good mental health, there must be a balance of life’s demands and a person’s potential to deal with those demands.
So how can we as humans with normal tensions deal with unwanted thoughts or feelings? The anecdote is naturally easy in three key solutions.
1. Accept you have a problem. For example: I should have written down the notice immediately, but I just wanted to clock out and get home quickly.
2. Think positive. For example: Though you might have been late to the meeting, your boss will appreciate your honesty and your efforts to make sure you are never late to a meeting again.
3. Indulge in constructiveness. For example: Perhaps start using your phone to put in important dates and meetings instead of a personal paper calendar.
As a previous youth counselor with five years’ experience in educating families with childhood behavioral disorders, and a degree in Human Services, I have firsthand experience on both sides of the spectrum. I was the patient and the counselor. By reading this article I truly hope it provides someone with a new perspective on mind and body awareness concerning their mental health.
If you suffer from OCD, do not feel that you are crazy or perhaps alone and it is possible to be helped. Remember, Neurotic disorder, specifically OCD is a product of imperfection. It is not a sign of moral weakness or spiritual failure. Neurotic tension is a common illness among individuals today. If you are having a difficult time handling a situation, talk to a healthcare professional, a family member, or trusted friend. If you seek help, you will be sure find help.
Additional articles written by this contributor:
How I survived my brother’s suicide
Alleviating Anxiety: The Difference between Normal and Neurotic Tension